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By Chantel Vereen
Picture yourself on a date. Do you find yourself taking a stroll in the park with some frozen yogurt? Or cuddled up on a couch with the person you have been texting while things get hot and heavy in the first few minutes of “House of Cards?”
Today, the majority of us find the latter more acceptable because we are dedicated to the hook-up culture.
Hook-up culture is when a community encourages and agrees with the act of casual sex. So is that a bad thing?
Yes and no. But what we do know is that antics like the infamous “Netflix and chill” are heavily glorified, especially through technological advances.
There’s so many apps out there. Tinder, Grindr and Plenty of Fish are just a few. And with all of these apps, people can be bold and do what they’ve always wanted by meeting with people whom they find interesting. But there is no face-to-face communication through these apps and when there is face-to-face contact, some find it to be awkward.
With these apps, more and more people find themselves seeing profiles online and getting so caught up in common interests that they do not even realize what might be going on.
People have three possible objectives when talking to someone online: looking for sex, catfishing or searching for a soulmate.
Sadly, searching for a soulmate seems to be the least likely of the three.
Why do we do this? Is it because it’s easier and we don’t want to deal with the real thing?
There is a lot of pressure from our peers when it comes to hooking up. Nowadays, people instantly discover when the Netflix and chill event has happened. Our lives in college get put out there against our will.
Some believe that what you do with your free time is your business. But an old Chinese Proverb says, “If you don’t want anyone to find out, don’t do it.”
The idea of hooking up in college can lead to some fallbacks. You are more likely to contract a venereal disease in the first year of living with a hook up persona. Many people have had sex with many other people. And in this day and age, body count, or the amount of people you’ve had sex with, matters.
Everyone wants to know who’s slept with who. What is a good number to have? Should number 20 be the person you marry? Or is that too high?
A positive result of living through this hook-up culture is that people are more confident with their bodies and feel more empowered.
“It’s a normalized thing,” said Emily Rosado, a junior mass communications and public relations major. “In a way, it has a positive and negative thing. People want to feel cool and don’t want to show their emotions which can be bad because we should be expressing ourselves.”
But what can you do? You live the life you live.
“I like this. Basically, I feel like everyone has a choice,” said Reva Thompson, a junior music performance major. “But at the same time, the value of sex is minimized and so are relationships.”
Do we even care for the quality of sex anymore? It used to be seen as a primal way to keep the human race alive. It was seen as sacred.
Now, it has the same importance of a pencil. You get it, use it and lose it. Some people have a different pencil every day and it’s no big deal.
But at the end of the day, the decision is yours. So to hook up or not to hook up – what’s it going to be?